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Long-Distance Caregiver Checklist
Verify concerns and build a local support picture when you cannot regularly visit in person.
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Use this checklist when you are supporting an older adult but cannot regularly see the home, food, medications, mail, bills, hygiene, mobility, safety, or social situation in person.
Lack of visible problems is not the same thing as lack of problems.
Verify before assuming.
This checklist is for awareness, coordination, and safety. It is not legal, medical, financial, tax, insurance, or benefits advice.
Do not write Social Security numbers, financial account numbers, passwords, portal credentials, or sensitive identity information on this checklist.
Section 1
Quick Reality Check
| Question | Notes |
|---|---|
| When was the last in-person visit? | |
| Who has seen the older adult recently? | |
| Who can physically check in if needed? | |
| How often do you communicate? |
What do you know for sure?
What are you assuming?
What needs local verification?
Section 2
Things You Cannot Reliably Judge By Phone Alone
These items usually require an in-person visit or trusted local observation.
- Food availability.
- Spoiled food.
- Medication organization.
- Unopened mail.
- Home temperature.
- Fall hazards.
- Cleanliness.
- Personal hygiene.
- Bruises or injuries.
- Home maintenance problems.
- Driving concerns.
- Bathroom safety.
- Stairs or walkway safety.
- Whether the person seems afraid.
- Whether someone is controlling visits, calls, money, or access.
Notes from local observation:
Section 3
Questions To Ask Regularly
Ask calmly. The goal is to understand, not interrogate.
Health
- Any recent falls?
- Any new medications?
- Any doctor visits?
- Any pain?
- Any hospital visits?
- Any changes in sleep, appetite, memory, mood, balance, or energy?
Notes:
Daily Life
- How is transportation?
- How is grocery shopping?
- How is cooking?
- Any difficulty around the house?
- Any trouble bathing, dressing, laundry, cleaning, or getting to the bathroom?
- Is the phone easy to reach and working?
Notes:
Finances
- Any unusual bills?
- Any unexpected expenses?
- Any requests for money?
- Any concerns about scams?
- Any unopened mail, unpaid bills, or notices?
- Has anyone new asked for access, signatures, money, or account help?
Notes:
Social Support
- Who have you seen recently?
- Who would you call in an emergency?
- Is there anyone you trust nearby?
- Are you feeling lonely, afraid, pressured, or overwhelmed?
- Would you like help finding local support?
Notes:
Section 4
Local Support Network
Do not assume family support exists. Include friends, neighbors, caregivers, building staff, faith or community contacts, relatives, trusted helpers, or support people.
| Name | Relationship | Location | Phone | What They Can Help With |
|---|---|---|---|---|
Who can check in today if needed?
Who can check the home if something feels off?
Who should not be relied on?
Section 5
Warning Signs To Investigate
One event may not mean a crisis. Repeated patterns deserve attention.
- Sudden confusion.
- Repeated missed calls.
- Missed appointments.
- Unpaid bills.
- Weight loss.
- Medication confusion.
- Increasing isolation.
- Fearfulness.
- Falls.
- Driving concerns.
- New people requesting access or money.
- Home safety concerns.
- Hospitalization.
- Spoiled food or limited food.
- Unopened mail piling up.
- Someone blocking private conversation.
Patterns noticed:
What needs follow-up?
Section 6
If Something Feels Wrong
Use this section to slow down, verify, and decide what should happen next.
Who can check in locally?
What information is missing?
What should be verified?
Who needs to be contacted?
Is the concern urgent?
Yes No Unsure
Why?
Section 7
Escalation Plan
Use this as a planning list. If there is immediate danger, call emergency services.
| Contact or resource | Name / agency | Phone | Notes |
|---|---|---|---|
| Primary emergency contact | |||
| Backup contact | |||
| Doctor | |||
| Pharmacy | |||
| Local support person | |||
| Area Agency on Aging | |||
| Adult Protective Services, if needed | |||
| Other resource |
What should trigger a local check-in?
What should trigger an emergency call?
Section 8
Information To Keep Current
Use the Parent Information Worksheet and Medication Tracker for more detail.
- Address.
- Phone numbers.
- Emergency contacts.
- Doctors.
- Pharmacy.
- Medication list.
- Insurance summary.
- Legal document locations.
- Key helpers.
- Local support people.
- Transportation options.
- Pets or dependents.
Information that needs updating:
Who will update it?
Final Page
Long-Distance Caregiver Review
Before ending this review, check:
- Local support identified.
- Information updated.
- Warning signs reviewed.
- Emergency contacts verified.
- Questions documented.
- Follow-up scheduled.
Notes: